Lisa: I’m gonna tell you a few stories. I come from a very strong family of storytellers. And in Africa, before they could read, they
used stories to tell history. They used stories to inspire. They used stories to motivate. They used stories to hold you accountable. Everything was rooted in a story. And I think we all, at the end of the day,
like a good story. Yes, yes? Together: Yeah. Lisa: Now, I’m also a “Chicken Soup for the
Soul” co-author, so I know a little something about stories. When I co-authored “Chicken Soup for the African
American Soul” I had to read 3,200 stories to find 189 phenomenal stories. And then when I co-authored the second book,
by the time I finished that, I had read over 5,500 stories to find the best 189. So, I found the power in stories because I
was liberated through someone else’s story. I was empowered. I was inspired. I was healed through someone else’s story
so tonight I’m gonna share a few stories with you. I wanna start with there was a time my grandmother
and I were sitting and my grandmother said, “Baby,” she starts every conversation with
baby. She said, “Baby,” she said, “When you get
my age, you’re supposed to sit in your favorite rocking chair and you’re supposed to tell
the stories of your life. But you gotta tell the story to your grandchildren,
and your grandchildren’s children, and your neighbors, and just tell the story to anyone
listening. Tell the story of your life, baby.” She said, “But when you’re your age, honey,
you’re supposed to go out and make sure the story is really good to tell.” Yes, yes? Together: Yes. Lisa: Now, when I’m in church, we say, “Amen,”
but we’re not in church. And when I’m with my girlfriends they say,
“You go, girl,” when I say something like…but don’t worry. I’m not going to do it to you, Chip [SP] . I’m
not going to…you don’t have to say, “You go, girl.” So, here when I say something that you like…and
my friends from Calgary, you guys know, from Canada. When I say something that you like that resonates
with you, don’t worry about your neighbor, if your neighbor gets it as well. You know, Vishen talked about this conference
is gonna have several things. It’s gonna have education information. And, while I teach wealth building programs,
I’m on my way to China to teach wisdom and wealth and teach wealth building to 3,300
Taiwanese people. While I teach entrepreneur development, while
I teach speakers how to build a platform as a speaker, bootstrap to big time, building
themselves up from what some would say nothing to absolutely something. While I teach all those curriculums, and I’m
very excited about them. Having built two multimillion-dollar companies
and having created a multimillion-dollar brand, I know a little about something making a dream
and turning my passion into profit. I know a little something about that. However, today I came just to inspire and
touch your heart. You’ve got some of the best content on the
planet in the last couple of days, would you agree? Some of the best content on the planet. Some of the best content on the planet. And, you know, I’m a content queen. I sit around a lot of content providers and
I can say this is some of the best content on the planet. And so, I just came to talk to your heart. We can have other experiences where I teach
you techniques but you’ve learned a lot of really great techniques, I thought I’d just
talk to your heart. Is that okay with you, guys? Together: Yes. Lisa: Is that all right? Just make sure that everything that’s been
given is settled and rooted and it’s just some good substance in some good soil. Is that okay, you guys? Together: Yeah. Lisa: Otherwise it was just a great experience
that comes and goes, and we don’t want this to go anywhere so let’s root it. As David said, let’s anchor it. And so that’s what my assignment is going
to be with you guys. And so, when I say something that resonates
with you, I want you to say, “Yes, yes.” But I want you to say the second yes louder
than the first yes. Turn the volume up on that one. I want you to say, “Yes, yes.” The volume on the second yes has to take you
right outside the comfort zone. Try that. One, two, three. Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: That’s pretty good. Not quite worth my trip to Costa Rica. I want that second yes to be a yes that clearly
is not a yes you would do on a ordinary day. I want it to be something that just feels
different the minute you do it. Try it again. One, two, three. Together: Yes. yes. Lisa: That’s getting better. Now, I think on the third time we do this,
it’s gonna make that chandelier shake. I just believe it. I want that second yes to make the hair on
the back of your neck stand up. I want it to make that little pit in your
stomach kinda jump a little bit. You have to absolutely jump way out of your
comfort zone. Try it again. One, two, three. Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Every time I say something that speaks
to your soul, I want you to say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Every time I say something that you
say, “That’s absolutely me,” I want you to say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Every time I say something that part
of you that’s coming alive, even the part that you haven’t acknowledged yet, I want
you to say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Even with knees knocking and teeth chattering
sometimes you have to say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: When you leave here and someone gives
you an opportunity that feels good, you may not know the how but it just feels right,
I want you to say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: When someone says something to you and
they may not even know about the “Yes, yes,” and they say, “Baby, do you want to do something
different today,” even if you don’t want to but you know you gotta get out of the covers
and say… Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Now, because they weren’t here they
might think you’re a little strange. But that’s okay because I realized when you’re
birthing a dream, you might have to be willing to be perceived a little strange. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: That’s your cue. That was one of those moments. If I say something that resonates, you just
say it. Don’t ask for permission. I’d rather you live a life of asking for forgiveness
versus asking for permission. Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: So, anytime I say something that speaks
to you, again, just say those words. And so, I realized that sometimes you may
have to seem a little strange and why would I have you say, “Yes, yes”? Because in 2009, you may have only said yes
one time. And if we wanna get something different, we
might have to do something different. Even if it starts with just one extra yes. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: So many times people don’t wanna step
up for the fear of being perceived strange. Well, let me tell you the freedom in strange. See, there was a gentleman who said, “Let’s
take a long walk for freedom. Let’s walk miles, over 36 miles,” and I think
someone walked in their staces [SP] and their church shoes, and I know somebody said, “Martin,
you have to be crazy.” And Martin Luther King said, “Let’s walk anyway.” And we all are the benefactors of that walk. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: I know that Mahatma Gandhi said, “Let’s
just be the change we wanna see in the world,” and some control freak said, “Mahatma, you
gotta be crazy.” And he said, “Why, that’s all right.” And I know, Mother Teresa, when she said,
“Let’s end hunger by feeding one child at a time,” someone that won a massive buffet
said, “Look, Mama T, you got to be crazy.” And that gentleman who spent 27 years in prison
and said, “I will leave prison and lead the largest forgiveness movement in history.” Someone that looked just like him with the
same skin color in the jail cell next to him said, “Nelson, you gotta be crazy.” And so if someone calls you crazy because
of your dream, just look at him and say, “Well, you know, I’m in some damn good company.” Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Well, my grandma told me to live a life,
play big, make the story good, make the story great, baby, make the story juicy. See, I’m that little girl from South Central
Los Angeles who grew up between the Harlem Crip 30s and the Rollin’ 60s and those are
not cheerleading squads, y’all. I’m that little girl who my best grade in
school was a C. And, I mean, when other people got Cs, they got frustrated. When I got a C, I did the happy dance, “Go,
Lisa, it’s your birthday. Go, Lisa, it’s your birthday.” That’s a really good grade for me. Anybody else got a C as a great grade? Thank you very much. Thank you very much. And so, you know, I was that kind of kid where
I needed to hear it several times. I tell people I’m not a fast learner, I’m
a thorough learner. But in school that didn’t quite work and so
I struggled all 12 years. I look at my life now, my grandmother says,
“Baby, make sure the story is good to tell. Make sure it’s juicy to tell. And don’t allow anyone to take your dream
away no matter what.” And I’m off at 18. I’m like, “Okay.” So, I go off and I start writing. “Grandma, I wanna be a speaker.” She’s like, “Okay, baby, well, start writing. Start speaking.” I’d write a speech for her and she…I’d take
it to her and say, “Grandma, here’s a speech.” And she’d read it and I said, “No, no. Let me recite it to you.” And I’d recite my speech to my grandmother
and she’d go, “Mmh.” And then I’d circle the part that she said
“Mmh” on because that was a good part. And at the end of a speech, I’d say, “Here,
put it in the folder, grandma.” She’d put it in the little black folder. I still have the picture of the folder, black
folder with Lisa’s speeches on it. She’d put it away in the folder. I’d come back in two weeks and I read another
speech to her and she’d go, “Mmh,” and I’d a circle. And I say, “Here, grandma, put it in the folder.” I did this for like a year. I put like 12 speeches in that folder. I’m like, “Grandma, I got some great speeches.” She said, “Yes, you do, baby.” She said, “But, baby, do you wanna inspire
millions?” I said, “Yes.” “Hundreds of millions, baby?” I said, “Yes.” She said, “Well, don’t you think you need
to tell somebody other than grandmama about these things?” Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: You gotta share your dream. You can’t be afraid to… Shawn talked about. You gotta share your dream. You gotta be willing to look a little strange. You gotta be willing to sometimes walk alone. I tell you when you’re walking alone with
your dream it’s because no one else gave…God didn’t give the dream to anybody else but
you. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: And you are impregnated with something
that’s greater than you. So, if it feels uncomfortable, it amazes me
how when it gets hard, you wanna quit. You’re impregnated with a dream bigger than
you. What part of labor did you think would be
comfortable? Well, you’re birthing something. You’re birthing something. You’re birthing something. You’re birthing something. You go in when a woman goes into labor, she’s
not thinking about the labor, she’s thinking about the other side of labor. That’s the only reason why we sign up for
this. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: And that whole time when we’re in labor,
we’re thinking about, “It’s worth it. It’s going to be worth it when I hold my baby.” And when our husbands, our children’s father
besides, they’re saying, “Come on, please, please keep going. Please let it come out,” because something’s
beautiful is coming. Let’s just hold our dreams the same way. Precious and delicate. No matter what. And sometimes we say, “I want it to come out
sooner, quicker, faster. I’m in a rush. I’m looking at Jon. I’m looking at Shawn. I’m looking at Vishen. I’m looking at David. I need it to come out faster. And, just like any doctor would say, “Baby,
you gotta go full term. Because if it don’t come full term, it’s gonna
be in danger of not being fully developed.” Your vision needs lungs to breathe life into
the world. I had to go through a journey to get in front
of you today. It wasn’t a helicopter landed here, and “The
Secret” didn’t get me here, nor was I an overnight success because if I was, that was the longest
night of my life. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Because long before the lights came,
long before Chicken Soup called me, people say, “How did you get the Chicken Soup deal,
Lisa? How did you get The Secret deal, Lisa? How did you get on Oprah, Lisa? How did you get on Larry King? How did you get on Extra? How did you get there?” I said, “I just answered the phone but the
question you should ask me is how did I get the phone to ring?” Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: See, it’s what you’re willing to do
when the lights are off. It’s what you’re willing to do in the dark
of the night. It’s what you’re willing to do when no one’s
looking. It’s what you’re willing to do for the person
that cannot give an endorsement because no one will listen to theirs. They’re not quite important enough. It’s what you would do for them. Right. It’s what you would do just because it’s the
right thing to do. It’s what you would do because it’s harder
for you not to do it. It’s what you would do that, sure, you will
do an energy exchange of finances but if they don’t have it you’ll find a way to make it
work just because it’s the right thing to do. That’s how you make the phone ring. That’s how you make secret come. There’s no secret in who I’ve been. That was just a project that I attached myself
to to leverage my name and to contribute to the world. And, by the way, people say, “Oh my God, you
must be a millionaire after ‘The Secret’.” I did that for free. So, all of you guys thought I was bathing
in hundred dollar bills. I might be but it’s not from “The Secret.” I said yes because Rhonda Byrne asked me one
thing. She said, “Can you help me create a piece
of work that would change humanity?” That was the question she asked, you guys. It just felt like the right thing to do. I had no idea it would explode the way it
did. It just felt right. Do it because it feels right. Do your dream because it’s keeping you up
at night. See, you think your dream is too hard to do,
it gets difficult to do. Well, I’mma tell you something. It’s more difficult not to do it. You ain’t gon’ never get no sleep because
it’s in your being. It’s in your fiber. The scariest thing to do was to say yes to
my champion because then I had to put my story aside. Then I had to be the little girl from South
Central L.A. who had three fights a week to get home from school, who barely got over
a C, who was 100% under the poverty line. I had to be her in my past. She could not fit in my present. She simply got me to where I am today. I don’t hold on to her. I embrace or love her but she doesn’t hold
me back. She doesn’t impede in me. I don’t use that story. People say, “How can you be an African American
woman on stage, main stage, with predominantly white men and you’re just like, you’re as
powerful as they are. How did you get there?” I say, “I didn’t know I couldn’t be there.” Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: I didn’t get the memo. Like, what are you willing to give yourself
permission to do. I’m gonna ask you some key questions throughout
this process and I didn’t come here to so much give you a lot of information, I came
here to ask you some questions that might stir your soul. I came here to share some stories with you
that might open your heart and allow you to give yourself permission to play bigger just
because it’s the right thing to do because it’s your assignment. Because until you say yes to your big picture
assignment, you won’t be at peace with the current day. You know that. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: And that the world is waiting on you,
that your gift is not given to you for you. Your gift is given to you to help save our
lives, to help change our lives. You keep thinking it’s about you. “I’m scared. I’m afraid. I’m tired.” It ain’t about you. It’s about us. That because you said yes to your champion,
I get to breathe deep. I get to learn how to love my child. I get to reach out to someone through internet
marketing when that’s not my gift. I get to have a Lifebook for my baby. I’m signed up. Adding all the financial stuff was great but
when David said have a book for my son and my grandchildren, done… Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Your dream, your vision, your goal,
your business, your champion is to save our lives. So, if you don’t do it for you, please do
it for me. Whatever that takes, be willing. See, my job is to go through the world and
just love on people, help to transform, heal, and inspire them. And I’m just gonna show you some pictures. I’ve gone all around the world. And my job is just to… That’s Kim the comedian “In Living Color,”
I don’t know if you guys remember that long time ago, “Living Single.” And my job is just to go around the world
and inspire. This is a group of teens. And, one of the things I love about being
well off in business is that it allows me to give more away. So, I get to say yes more to people’s requests. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Everyone in this room should be wealthy,
extremely wealthy. Because when people do good and people do
well, they simply get to do more good. You’re the best people to be wealthy because
you’re gonna be responsible with that. You can find a cure for something. I believe that if we all put our hands together,
and our finances together, our resources together, there shouldn’t be a homeless child this holiday
season. There shouldn’t be a hungry mother this holiday
season. I just believe that. I’m crazy enough to believe. See, I’m okay with being crazy. I’m absolutely okay with being crazy. I’m crazy enough to believe that if we all
and when we all get it right and make it phenomenal, make tons of money, we can come back here
and say, “Okay, now, let’s all put a million in and let’s target here first. And let’s put another million in and let’s
target here first.” And we can handle it. So, you should be wealthy. You gotta be wealthy. It’s your responsibility to be wealthy. This woman, a blonde-haired, blue-eyed woman
walked up to me with a African American baby or a black baby. I looked at her, I said, “Hmm.” She said, “I just got him a week ago from
Nigeria. I adopted him and I brought him straight to
you so you can bless my baby.” And so that’s what when you decide to step
into your passion, step into your greatness, you decide to play full out no matter what
so you can keep going. And it’s just a matter… This woman here stood up and said, “You talked
about preventing suicide with teens but I want you to know that my husband and I are
$340,000 in debt, and my husband was contemplating suicide, and he listened to your DVD “You
Deserve It” and decided to live.” And so, that was the hug when she said, “Thank
you for saving my husband’s life.” And, just traveling around the world, and
just enjoying and celebrating people, and stepping into my greatness, and saying yes
to my gift. When are you gonna say yes, play full out? When are you gonna say no matter what? When does it become not an option for you? See, for many of you, your success is still
an option. That’s one of my investors. My investor [inaudible 00:20:21] invested
tons of money in my business. She then turned around and brought all of
her children to the workshop, then she turned around and began to train with me for the
last three years. So, when you can step into relationships,
she was happy, grateful to give me the money, then grateful to bring her family, and then
grateful to come learn. When you’re contributing like Josiah [SP]
, when you’re contributing high, it all seems to roll out. And then there’s the opportunity to simply
package yourself and call it a business. That’s it. You’re just packaging yourself and calling
it a business. I just wanted to share a little bit of the
journey with you because many of you came here saying, “I’mma see ‘The Secret’ lady,”
right? How many of y’all call me “The Secret” lady? Really, it’s so true. It’s all right. Before “The Secret” lady, I was the “The Chicken
Soup” lady, and then I became “The Secret” lady. That’s okay. I’m okay with that because when there’s no
ego or, ladies, no shego. We get to have our own. You can write that down. I don’t need you to know my name. Just be inspired by something I said or did
and my day is complete. I’ll just let you fly through some of these. This was the first time when I had my company. I was able to take my entire company on…our
strategic planning session was on a yacht around San Diego and we talked about transforming
lives while we watched dolphins, you know, swim. And so, just about…some of you guys might
know that gentleman. He swore we were dressed alike because we
should be a couple. I was able to convince him not. That’s Les Brown, one of my mentors and this
was key because I grew up reading the magazine “Essence”. “Essence” is the epitome of beauty for the
African American community. It’s a big magazine. Every single person’s in it, Obama, Michelle,
you know, all the presidents are interviewed through it. And I’ve always just…it was the book that
I had to look at to see beauty that looked like me and then they invited me to speak. That’s Dr. Ian. You guys might recognize Dr. Ian and Leila
Ali, Mohamed Ali’s daughter. And that was at Essence just last month. They asked me to be their opening speaker. You know, there are parts of my life now that
happens where I see the fruits of my service, the harvest is coming up. I was in the van with John Assaraf about five
years ago and I was on “The Chicken Soup for the Soul” tour and I was tired so I started
crying. I was like, “John, when does it get easier? I’ve been working so hard.” We’re on our way to John Gray’s house and
John looked at me all calm and goes, “Lisa, you’re planting seeds this season. Sweetheart, you cannot plant the seeds and
reap the harvest in the same season.” Ain’t that delicious? Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: Three years later, we’re sitting in
a limo in Canada, I think, on a tour and business was phenomenal and he looks over at me in
the limo and he says, “So, how does the harvest taste.” And so, are you in the season where you’re
planting your seeds or reaping your harvest? This was in China. I was on my way to China and what was really
amazing was the level of energy. You see, my interpreter had to do everything
I did. Can you imagine? I’m like doing this and I look at him and
he go like this. The promoter said he was so exhausted that
night. And they expected to have me come back once
a year and the reaction that we got from China in July warrant him asking me will I come
back in five months, so when we leave here we’re on our way back. And, you know, talking about family, keeping
family present, my daddy’s birthday happened while I was in China so I took that picture
at The Ritz-Carlton. If you can’t read, it says, “Happy Birthday,
daddy. I love you.” And I got a birthday cake for my daddy making
sure balance happens, making sure balance occurs. I wanna tell you a story. We can stop it right there. I wanna tell you a story. Oh, well, let me tell you that first. That’s hottie hottie. So, on my birthday, General Motors took me
out to a birthday lunch and asked would I consider being the spokesperson for General
Motors. And so, we’re talking about that and I told
them we can discuss it. We can talk about it. And so, it was just a season for me because
see, I’m that girl who got a D in speech. And my speech teacher said that I should never
speak in…he said, “Miss Nichols, you should never speak in public.” But that was right after my English teacher
gave me a fail and said, “Miss Nichols, you’re the weakest writer I ever met in my entire
life.” And I asked her, “Does a trophy come with
that?” I’m the best at the worst. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: I tell people, don’t worry, the story
ends really good. Don’t get caught up in that part. And the point is that some motivation comes
wrapped in sandpaper. Some motivation will come wrapped in sandpaper. Some motivation comes wrapped in sticky, ugly,
situation that you didn’t ask for. And that’s still your why, it’s not your why
not. It’s your why. It’s always been your why. It will always be your why. I wanna share a story with you. In a former life, I was an athlete and I ran
track and I swam competition. I’mma tell you this story really first. I wanna tell you this other really great…I
wanna have you go through this experience. And I swam the 50-yard dash freestyle but
I had one small problem. I would always, say, always. Together: Always. Lisa: I would always come in dead last. Say, dead last. Together: Dead last. Lisa: No, say dead last like if I weren’t
around. Say, dead last. Together: Dead last. Lisa: That’s how you say it like, “She came
in…” Together: “…dead last.” Lisa: Right. That’s how you say it. That’s okay. Say it to my face. And so, I would always come in dead last. If they had six lanes, I’d come in 6th. If they had eight lanes, I’d come in eighth. If they had 10 lanes, I’d come in 10th. And so, this particular day I was tired. I was tired. I’d had 13 swim meets over the summer and
I’d come in dead last on every single one so I’d always get this honorable mention. You know, the athletes in here know about
the honorable mention, right? It’s that ribbon that says, “Thank you for
showing up.” You know that one, right? It’s the one that says, “You didn’t do diddly-squat
but we don’t want you to leave here empty-handed.” “Here you go. You all come back now, you hear?” So, I had a bunch of honorable mentions. And so, the day before the swim meet, I go
to my grandmother’s house, the safest place on the planet and I say, “Grandma, I’m tired.” And some of you may be there. You know, we’re here being inspired but, let’s
be honest. Let’s be authentic inside the whole journey. The part that I love about my journey is that
I get to tell you the truth. I’m not gonna traddle because I’m “The Secret”
lady. I’m not going to allow anybody to put me in
a box and not be real. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: It’s freedom and authenticity. And that day was a bad day. So, I said, “Grandma, I’m tired. I’m tired.” And, if this is you just raise your hand silently. If you hear anything I’m saying you can resonate
with. I said, “Grandma, I’m tired of putting my
all in and feeling like I’m not getting anything back out.” Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I said, “Grandma, I’m tired of showing up
and no one seems to even acknowledge that I’m here. They just have expectations of me. There’s no acknowledgment for just showing
up.” I said, “Grandma, I’m tired of not hearing
thank you. I might come in last but I gave it my best. That was the best I had.” I said, “Grandma, I quit.” She said, “Quit?” I said, “Quit, ma’am? How am I supposed to say it?” She said, “Come sit here.” She said, “Grandma wants to tell you a story.” I said, “Oh, she gonna grandmanize me. She gonna make me think I can fly.” She sat down and she said, “Baby, you might
not notice because you’re only 15.” She said, “But,” and I’mma say this to you
because whether you’re in this space now, or you may have been in this space, or you
may be on your way to this space, just hold this is… I love what Maleck said. He said…is it Maleck? I wanna pronounce it correctly. Maleck said, “You know, you right things and
it’s speaking to your future.” I just love that, you know. So, just store this in your pocket if it’s
not for you now. It might be for you in the future. She said, “Baby,” because that’s what she
say. She said, “Baby,” she said, “I don’t know
if you know but you were built from the best.” She said, “So, I need to remind you that quitters
never win and winners never quit.” She said, “Your grandparents’ grandparents’
grandparents’, see, they had a hard life. And they many times wanted to stop but they
didn’t because quitters never win and winners never quit.” She said, “Your grandparents, baby, they didn’t
have laptops and cell phones. They didn’t have cars. They worked sometimes in the field until their
fingers burst with blisters and their feet burst with blisters and they wanted to stop
but they didn’t because quitters never win and winners never quit.” She said, “So, honey, I don’t know if you
thought you had the option of quitting.” And she said, “But grandma need to tell you,
you need to take that option off the table because that’s not who you are. That’s not what you’re built of.” So, I got up and I walked out and I was like,
“I’m never coming over here to quit again.” The next day, I walked in and I saw the worst
sight ever, the worst sight ever in the gym. My entire family in the bleachers. Now, there’s only one thing worse than coming
in dead last, it’s having your entire family witness that you coming in what? Together: Dead last. Lisa: I go over to the judge and I said, “Judge,
could I just get my honorable mention and leave? I know how this gonna end.” He said, “No.” I said. “I’m here for the 15, 16 freestyle.” He says, “Oh, you missed your heat already. They swam.” I said, “Oh, cool.” He said, “Wait, coach, do you want her to
swim with the 17, 18-year-olds?” I was like, “Oh, no, no, no, they have me
as appetizers.” My coach said, “Yes.” He said, “There’s one lane open right in the
center of the pool. You want her to swim?” My coach said, “Lisa, go ahead.” I was like, “Coach, I don’t need to swim.” She goes, “Yeah, you need to the practice.” I said, “I know how to lose. I have mastered losing. I have a loser’s shrine at home, thank you
very much.” “Go ahead, Lisa.” I get on deck and I gotta tell you there’s
a big difference between a 15-year-old girl and a 18-year-old girl. At 15, and I had cornrows going back with
matching blue barrettes. At 18, Speedo cap. At 15, and I had a lace bathing suit lace
going down. At 18, Speedo. At 15, “Hi, how you guys doing? Hi, my name is Lisa. Could you wait for me when you come? Let’s go to the bathroom together.” At 18… I got on deck and some of you who might be
here right now. Someone say, “Your mark.” I said, “I don’t know how I’m gonna get through
this time. I’ve done everything I know how to do. This is scary.” Some of you might be there. Some of your families might be there. “Set.” You said just have faith. Just believe in the unseen. Ask, believe, and receive. And I know like I know, like I know but I
deserve to win. I don’t quite know how all the time but I
know I deserve it. “Pow.” The gun went off, I hit the water. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Y’all help me. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. I drew my right arm back, there was one girl
even with me. I said, “Oh, today she comes in what…dead
last.” Quitters never win. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. I did the flip turn because back then I knew
how. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. Quitters never win. Winners never quit. I hit the wall. I looked to my left, there was no one there. I looked to my right, there was no one there. But you know that negative chatter in our
head, right? I said, “Dang, I’m so slow, they got out the
pool already? What? I’m getting slower by the day. Like, there’s no ripples in the water or anything.” I look at my coach and she’s going crazy,
“Lisa, Lisa, look, look.” I’m like, “What, what, what?” “Look, look.” I look behind me, the first person to hit
the halfway mark. But you know our negative chatter, right? I said, “Coach, was I supposed to swim three
laps?” Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: My coach runs over to me, she goes,
“Lisa, what did you do differently? What did you…I’ve been training with you
all summer long. I’ve coached you. What have you done different?” I was like, “What are you talk…” I put the barrettes in my hair. “But, oh, I went to my grandma’s house yesterday
and she taught me something. She taught me, quitters never win and winners
never quit, so I just like chanted that the whole time I was swimming.” She was like, “What have you been chanting?” I was like, “I don’t wanna lose. I don’t wanna lose. I don’t wanna lose.” I said, “What happened coach? What happened?” She said, “You just broke the 17, 18 national
record.” Yes, yes? Yes, yes? The only variable that changed was the conversation
going on in my head. The only variable that changed was what I
could believe I could do. Nothing else changed. I wanna take you on a journey right quick. I’m gonna ask the…Aaron, is it? I’m gonna ask Aaron to play a little music
in a minute. I wanna take you on a journey before we part
ways and I wanna gift you with a little something. Before you do that, just in one moment. 10 years ago, a gentleman walked me through
a visualization and I was in a room with 800 people. And, he had us sit and close our eyes. And every time he would do this exercise,
I’d sat with him and did this exercise like 8, 10 times. Every time he did it, it made a knot in my
stomach. I was so uncomfortable and it was so weird
because he had us sit with our eyes closed and listen to Martin Luther King “I have a
Dream” speech. But when I would listen to it, it would just
make me so uncomfortable. I didn’t understand it. I realized that the dream that I had, I was
afraid if it came true. Like, some of you are not afraid of it not
working, you’re getting nervous about if it does work. Like, I’m that little girl who’s ordinary,
who simply chose every day to make extraordinary decisions. I’m that girl who said, “I’ll say yes to my
greatness with knees knocking and teeth chattering, I’ll still say yes. I’ll say yes not knowing the how or the when
but just the fact that it has to be.” And so, I just stopped by Costa Rica with
you to stir your soul a bit, to make it uncomfortable for you to stay where you are. Wherever that is, I don’t care about your
bio. I’m not impressed about bios. Bios don’t impress me. I wanna know who are you becoming. I’m invested in your tomorrow far more than
your yesterday. You like your resume. I’m invested in your future. And so, I wanna take you on this journey in
our last few minutes together, the way I was taken on this journey. And if it makes you mildly, to moderately,
to significantly uncomfortable the way it made me, then welcome to my world. Yes, yes? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: That sometimes your champion can’t fit
in your body. And when it’s uncomfortable and you’re turning
upside down, that’s your champion saying, “I will not rest until you let me out. I didn’t come here, I wasn’t given to you
to just sit here, to take up real estate in your dreams. Well, I’m gonna ask you to get up, strap me
to your back, and let the world see me.” So, if my journey, if my conversation causes
you to jolt a little bit, cause you to squirm a little bit, then welcome to my world. I want you to take a deep breath. Sit up straight. Empty everything out of your hands. Take a deep breath. I wanna play a little music now. This gentleman talked about Dr. King. Dr. King had a vision that each one of us
will have the opportunity to live our life in our own righteousness. And that any one of us, Black, White, Asian,
Latino, that any other color, any other culture, we get to play together. That man and woman is seen for their heart,
their spirit, and their contribution. That’s what Dr. King said. And he said something so he important. He said, “I might not be there. I might not be there when you’re able to do
these things.” Like, imagine a dream so big that he said,
“I might not be there when you get to do it. I’mma still hold the dream and create it.” That, “I’m willing to live, speak, and die
for this dream. I might not get there with you but we’ll get
there.” Like, imagine a dream so deep, so visceral,
so real, that he’s willing to lay his life on the line for you and I, for us to have
this moment so that a little black girl from South Central L.A. can come to Costa Rica
with all of you and have this experience. And so I ask you, “Where do you see yourself
in five years? What’s your dream now?” I want you to visualize your dream. I want you, for a moment, to see yourself
five years out and you didn’t hit all your goals, you surpassed all your goals. Everything you wanted you got it and then
some. There is your dream to the third power came
true. Just imagine that. Take a deep breath. Imagine yourself driving up to your home and
this is the very same exercise that he gave me. Your driving up to your home in whatever that
car is, that fabulosity thing that’s important to you, that makes you feel good when you’re
rolling down the highway. And you pull up and the gates open and you
drive another half a mile up to your house. I told you the dream was better than you thought. I said to the third power you have to drive
a half a mile to the house. And you drive to your home and I love this
because David was talking about this yesterday with Jon’s home and it was just such a great
set up. Now, we’re going into your home. We’re not in Jon’s home. We’re not in David’s home. We’re not at Warren Buffet’s home. We’re in your home. Yes. You open the double doors. You smell lavender. You hear music. You go into your dining room and there’s a
table that sits about 15 to 20 people and every chair’s full with your most fabulous
favorite people on the planet, your family. And the person that you’ve had problems with
in your family, they’re sitting right next to you because you worked those out. I told you everything is better than you imagined. Everything is better than you imagined. And they’re laughing and talking, thanking
you for five years ago coming to Costa Rica to Awesome Fest, having the visualization
that got you busy. They’re thanking you. Everyone’s celebrating, lifting their glass,
seeing your vision. See them lifting their glass to you saying,
“Thank you for showing us how to dream again. Thank you.” And you’re just standing there so humble. “Thank you for going to Awesome Fest the first
year, the second year, the third year, the fourth year because something in us has changed
because you changed.” Can you see it, you guys? And you sit there and you break bread. The person who cooks the best, they cooked
today. I told you it was a good day. And you’re breaking bread and all of a sudden
you get a phone call and you’re reminded that you need to go to this event. You apologize. You tell them let’s keep playing, keep having
fun. There’s 15 rooms in the house so everyone
has a place to sleep. You get into your car and you drive up the
highway. And as you get close to the stadium event,
you run into a traffic jam and you start getting nervous. “Oh my God, I’m gonna be late. Oh my God, I’m gonna be…” Picture a traffic jam, you guys. Feel yourself getting nervous. “I’m gonna be late. I’m gonna be late. Oh my God.” And all of a sudden you’re forgetting for
a moment that all these people were coming to see you, that this is your traffic jam. You arrive to the event 10 minutes late and
everyone’s just excited that you came. They don’t care. And you stand on stage just like this and
you look out at 10,000 people all showing up just for you. And you open your speech with, “Thank you.” And before you can get another word out, someone
from the back, number 9,997th person yells, “No, thank you.” Then another person from the far left yells,
“Thank you.” And then someone from the far right yells,
“Thank you.” And one by one, all 10,000 people, “Thank
you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.” You hear some tears. You hear some older people. You hear young people, “Yo, thank you.” And for 20 minutes you just stand there, just
listening to thank you. And then you get it. You didn’t show up to talk, you showed up
so that they can acknowledge your contribution. And you decide to close every door in the
stadium and you stand at one door and you hug every single person. And they’re happy to wait six hours to be
hugged by you. You inspired them to live again, to breathe
again, to play big, to be strange. You inspired them by your life, not by what
you said, but by who you chose to be. And you hug them. And that 40-year-old woman says, “Thank you
for letting me know that I can live my dreams. I can be a mother, and a wife, and be me.” And that 70-year-old-man says, “Thank you
for letting me know that it’s not too late.” And that 16-year-old-girl says, “Thank you
for letting me know I can make mistakes, do it all wrong and then still get it all right.” And that 15-year-old-boy says, “Thank you
for letting me know I ain’t gotta do it anybody else’s way but mine.” Everyone just thanks you. Take a deep breath. Open your eyes as your comfortable. Can you see your future? Together: Yes, yes. Lisa: On January 19th, 2008, I was driving
down the 405 freeway on my way to the San Diego stadium with my girlfriend. The top was down on my convertible. I was playing some India Arie and we ran into
a traffic jam. My girlfriend just in fun and jest said, “Lisa,
what if this is your traffic jam?” And I just started bawling just at the thought. It wasn’t mine but the thought was good. And then we started getting nervous because
we weren’t moving at all and I only had 20 minutes to go and I needed to get there. And so she pulled up, she was driving, she
pulled up next to this white track and she said, “Can we get in?” And he said, “Sure.” Casually waved us in. We got in front of him. He leaned out his window. He said, “Because I’m going to see you anyway.” Oh, I really started bawling. Oh, I am bawling now. I’m bawling. Wait, it gets crazier. So, we’re driving down the highway and this
woman pulls up in this Escalade, beautiful Escalade. It look like it was a 2013 Escalade. Window goes down and she goes, “What time
are you going on?” I was like, “I think as soon as I get there.” She said, “Then I’m going to stay behind you
because I only came to see you.” We get to the off-ramp and there’s nowhere
to go. You know an off-ramp, there’s nowhere to go. And it’s five minutes until I’m supposed to
be on stage. Tony Robins is on before me. I’m hoping he’s a little long-winded today,
you know, because I need some time, but he’s on time and I need to be there. And I’m sitting in the car and one by one
the other cars start pointing, pointing at me, look in their rearview mirror and they
began to pull up on the side ramps of the highway and open up like the red sea. And as I drove through, all they yelled was,
“Thank you.” See, 10 years ago, I had that dream. I was asked to do the very same thing I just
asked you to do. So, if no one has told you yet, I’ll tell
you. What you just did was place an order to the
universe. When I got to the stadium, there wasn’t 10,000
people there waiting on me, there was 10,500. And so, I’ll close with, your life is waiting. You may have played big but there’s bigger. There’s more people to be served. And so I wanna thank you for allowing me to
spend this time in front of you. Thank you for allowing me to bring my stories
to you. Thank you for allowing me to share my grandmother
with you and my journey with you. I say again, I’m not extraordinary. I’m simply an ordinary woman who chooses every
day to make extraordinary decisions. And what that does is that doesn’t let you
off the hook. I love you. I honor you. I celebrate you. I’m your sister in prosperity and in possibility. And on the days when your faith about who
you can be waivers, I’ll hold my faith in you because it ain’t wavering. I love you.

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100 thoughts on “Telling the story of your life | Lisa Nichols”

  1. Wow …. I listened to this and cried almost the whole way through. Happy and sad tears. Truth is I'm afraid to be great.. but I'm not comfortable in my fear anymore. What I'm birthing is bigger than me … I now understand the discomfort. … I connected so deeply with these stories… Thank you for this video…

  2. Every time I hear this and I replay her on this portion about her traffic jam.. IT GIVES ME THE CHILLS AND I TEAR UP..

  3. This is probably my 3rd or 4th time watching this video but the impact it had on me today was something totally different. I cried enough tears to wash my car! LOL She makes me feel like I can do it, even at 50. Thank you!

  4. Wow Lisa you are so real u make me want to step out and stop defeating my purpose. God always show you the way through other real people like you.

  5. Your champion cannot fit in you….I cried so much when she said this because I know its true! It's like she was speaking about me! You are God sent to my life Lisa! My life is never the same again!

  6. I was so filled with joy and on fire that i had to step out on my patio and rejoice while listening to her speak. Yes, YES!!

  7. Lisa thank u for just being u and not pretending or wanting to be someone else. From Kingston Jamaican Bicky daley

  8. You are my SHERO!!! I just finished listening to Michelle Obama so I'm SUPER inspired. I am a single mom, teacher, dancer, nail technician and BROKE due to life happening and being scared to play full out. I have been feeling so confused and unsure about myself and know deep inside that I have so much to offer the world. But I get distracted easily and caught up in kissing frogs (boys) and chasing money that I feel like I have lost sight of my greatness and who I am. HELP!!! Do you have time to talk or coach one on one if so could you please message me on Facebook @Stacee Nailz Roche or Instagram @ karamel711

  9. I believe I'm impregnated with a dream and a purpose that is even beyond my imagination. endowed with a gift.. Yes, YES

  10. On this day 9th February 2018 sheโ€™s taken me through a visualization of 5 years from now. As long as I have breath I hope to look back to this day and say โ€œThank you !โ€ So help me God ๐Ÿ™

  11. It was as if I was actually there…seizing and grabbing hold of every word she spoke. This teaching spoke to my core as an inspirational speaker…Her teachings were so profound and insightful to help me understand how to take my listeners on my journey as I inspire them with my truth so they can see themselves walking as I walked, to know that if I went through and came out…my goodness they can too! God bless you Lisa….

  12. I bawled my eyes out the first time I listened to this. I've been searching for this on YouTube for a while. I'm so glad I found it again. I so needed this again! This has to be one of her best! YES! YES! Quitters never win; winners never quit. I will never quit. Thank you, Lisa! And I thank your grandmother as well! I love you too! Bawling again!

  13. Wow! Iโ€™m physically breathless! No exaggeration.
    I am aware that this is an older video Lisa so you might not see this message but I want to leave one anyway.
    Iโ€™ve gained so much insight from whatโ€™s likely a hundred or more videos of yours that Iโ€™ve had the pleasure and fortune to watch.
    This video had me deeply and I mean deeply and whole heartedly crying my heart out starting from your first swimming story and by your second swimming story I was SO loudly balling my eyes out with a heavy cocktail of releasing emotions and at the same time laughing in sheer liberating joy – it was phenomenal!!!
    I was right there Cheering you on and at the same time experiencing huge momentum of hope and courage and responsibility expanding in my chest.
    I want you to know Iโ€™m grateful not only for the benefit that I personally receive from you. Iโ€™m grateful to you for the impact youโ€™re making on this earth, the same earth my 13 year old son is growing up on. And all those people he will interact with.
    The right answer comes with Asking the Right Question!! I love that you share this, that will be the future โ€˜ must know!โ€™ Youโ€™re Glorious Lisa. Thank You… Iโ€™m off now, must go own my champion, yes Yes ๐Ÿ˜˜

  14. God I am used to seeing the slim you I thought someone was imitating you. You have really changed. I am amazed. I like this big you too. More actually.

  15. I realize that this video is a bit aged, still, "Lisa N.!" I've envisioned fields of lavender outside my dream home. I just about balled my eyes to blurred vision when you added that part in your creative visualization session.

    I take that segment as confirmation in my own dreams as a whole. :' -)

    Yhep…that's what I'm going with.

    Thank you mam…thank you.โค๐Ÿ˜˜

  16. This.
    I listened to the first half while running this morning and the second one — in my epsom salts bath after my run.
    I cried a lot on the bath. This exercise hit me so deep…. so beautiful, so powerful, Thank you!…

    I recommend this practice to anyone who resonates, honestly, I will bedding it again! ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. Everytime I listen to Lisa speak she has me in tears by the end. I have never encountered such a phenomenally powerful speaker.

  18. I am an ordinary girl who choose to make extre-ordinary decision everyday "YES YES!!!!!!!! NOMSA FROM SOUTH AFRICA

  19. This is my BIG day today. I some how started my abundance journey 2 days ago and I was looking for some motivational spiritual speeches so her video was the first that came on the top so I watched it. I didn't know what and where she was going with it. But in a middle of the video I start crying. I cry for 3 hrs watching thro her other videos. She's INCREDIBLE. she changed my life entirely โค

  20. I love how you transform me Lisa and speak to the core nerves in my heart. God bless you, you ran with your calling and we are all grateful

  21. โ€œYou can not plant the seeds and reap the harvest in the same seasonโ€ I loved this! Yes, YES! Lisa Nichols youโ€™ve been an inspiration for me!

  22. omg ๐Ÿ˜ฎ I love this women xxxxx๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿปโค๏ธ๐ŸŒˆ

  23. Lisa, I am at the starting block of the swimming pool. I have placed my order to the universe, and I commit to becoming the undisputed champion of my craft. #BOL #thisismytime #qualitylife #alifeofabundance

  24. What stirs your soul? Share your thoughts, we'd love to hear them ๐Ÿ˜ƒ AND you can experience how to become a great speaker when you watch Lisa's FREE masterclass here ๐Ÿ‘‰ https://go.mindvalley.com/bM0b6GJE

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